Monthly Archives September 2012

Living in Denial

A couple of years ago, I wrote a blog post entitled “Too Stupid to Know Better”. To this day, it remains one of my more popular and frequently visited blog posts. It’s amazing some of the search terms used to get to it, but regardless, it’s a popular post. Don’t know why. While I suggest you take a moment to go read it–especially if there’s something you’ve been wanting to do but are holding back on it. The post, essentially, talks about how we talk ourselves into or out of things we want or need to do. Sometimes, knowing too much information stagnates us–we don’t move...

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Fated Family–Not My Usual Style

So today, Fate Family is up on Amazon, and it’s already jumped up into the 20k range on sales. I’d like to see it go higher–I know it can go higher–but I have to get the word out that it’s available–so here you go: it’s available! This one isn’t like my other novellas… though the people who helped me edit it, all four of them said it was my voice, that they could clearly hear my voice in it, and they all were left with a feel-good moment about humanity. Hey, now that’s a good thing for a novella to do.

Derek Odom proofread the story for me, and this is one that, admittedly, a man like him probably wouldn’t have picked up on his own, but he admitted to me that the ending had him grinning from ear to ear...

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What do you do when they tell you…

.. that you have a terminal illness? Why, you go out and buy a dress! No, really. I did buy a dress!

I finally broke down and bought myself the dress I’ve been salivating over for months now. You can see the picture of it right here, and it’s gorgeous and I’m going to feel gorgeous in it, and screw the cost–I’m worth it! Okay, I don’t usually indulge like that, but I did need a nice dress to wear to an event thingy, and this can be a tax deduction and…. I’m justifying, but still, isn’t it gorgeous?

What Terminal Illness Means

As for the terminal illness part, I’ve learned some m...

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Good News, Bad News, Strange News

It’s a big long medical jargon phrase. Ready for it? Here goes: Chronic thromboembolic pulmonary hypertension

See, for the past year, we thought I had pulmonary hypertension. Some thought it might be pulmonary arterial hypertension, others thought just pulmonary hypertension, but nobody ever said the words Chronic thromboembolic pulmonary hypertension to me, or what is more commonly known as CTEPH. But it makes sense now that we’re getting to the bottom of what’s going on with me.

CTEPH is caused by a chronic thromboembolic disease, which basically is a fancy way of saying that someone has recurrent blood clots, usually from deep vein thrombisis–that means the clots move from the big veins, most often found in the legs or abdomen. These blood clots are usually caused by a medical condition, genetic disorder, and sometimes, though rarely, for no reason that anyone can ever find. For me, it’s likely from a chronic, undiagnoised inflammatory condition, auto-immune, and it’s looking more and more like my diagnoses from over seven years ago of Lupus was actually probably accurate. I am likely a serum negative lupus patient, and that would explain the inflammation, the immune issues, the pain, the butterfly rash everyone sees and comments on–but my ANAs are all negative. We are finding that from kidney issues to the blood clots, I’m having all the classic lupus complications, so really, at this point, ANAs seem a bit… well, useless.

Regardless, the blood clots traveled, unbeknownst to ...

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And my blog post earlier this year about it here:


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Life, In Circles

Many years ago now, I worked for a home health care agency back in Odessa. That agency was tasked with the contract with the Department of Health and Human Services, Division on Aging and Disability, to run the “provider program’. This program assisted people who were elderly or disabled and needed assistance with household tasks, like vacuuming, preparing a meal, washing dishes, doing laundry, etc, but who didn’t have insurance or other financial means to buy or utilize these things themselves.

The people who worked this program, the actual employees, didn’t even get paid minimum wage–no, seriously. Minimum wage was 5.25 and these folks–mostly women–were paid $4.85. It was government work, so somehow it was justifiable. No one worked full-time. No one received benefits. The only training they received is what little I myself, as the manager of the program, was able to provide them. The only equipment they received was a lifting belt, in case they needed to assist their client by lifting them unto bed, a couch, the toilet or the bath. The only requirement for the job: a high school diploma and successful completion of a basic criminal background check. Random drug testing was stated that it would be done, but it never was. Too expensive and the program couldn’t afford it.

Now, I want you to think for a moment: The weak...

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